Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

In some weird, obtuse way- he is disrespecting you and using you.

Disrespecting, yes, using me? I don't see how?

But the fact is this is my choice to prefer limbo over divorce. They say NC is the "last resort technique" but I would need to modify it so I would be the one to leave the house. Before I couldn't figure out where I could go and now I see I could just take another class! He is here 5 days/week and takes S one day per week. He spends his day off from work here, too, which has puzzled me because
1)OW also gets a day off
2)WH can choose his day off-so why not make it the same as hers and spend it with her?

On his day off, he is here 7:30-3:30 so I have the hardest time filling up my day with things to do not at home. I have been taking S to a sign class that starts at 2:15 so it cuts his visit short! Oh and his day off is Tues OR Wed...


I don't know if his work knows. I never wanted to expose it at work because I just saw that as 1) too low for me to go
2)would be burning all bridges for reconciliation
3)It would not have ended their relationship--nothing against HR policy to date others at work

However, it is highly unlikely that OW has kept it a secret this whole time!

I think his work may know we are separated.