another question: since my H is moving out tomorrow and i do not plan to call/email/text him, but need to let him know what furniture to take (he asked me to choose if i wanted the dresser or the wardrobe). so i plan to leave him a note at the apartment - which i plan to vacate for all of the day tomorrow and will stay at my sister's place with the dog that night.

i don't know if this is the time to say (in the note) something along the lines of what Onthemountaintop suggested ("I know we've had many changes, but I see the world differently. I love you and I hope you will see the side of me you loved once and could discover it again later on."). Should I end the note with something like that or keep it strictly to furniture?

Me30 H29
M2.5 T5
H moved out 1/23/2010
H wants signed agreement 3/30/2010
...feeling hopeless