Haven't written to you before so I'm not fully informed of your sitch.
Originally Posted By: NOMAD
I told her to start packing and leave the house.
Good.
Originally Posted By: NOMAD
She said she would not leave the house.
She doesn't have to... so kick her out of the master bed and sleep in it like a king.
Originally Posted By: NOMAD
I met with an attorney this week.
Good.
Originally Posted By: NOMAD
She has alot to loose and probably doesn't realize that.
So do you. I advise you to become well acquainted with the D laws of where you are and educate yourself extensively on your rights. Do some reading up on this and do not depend on your L to spoon feed you.
Originally Posted By: NOMAD
I told her today that I have started the process.
Not so good. A man does not tell... he decides and follows through with action. Just do it.
Originally Posted By: NOMAD
I will light the fuse Monday if needed.
It IS needed.
Originally Posted By: NOMAD
I contacted MC and prepared her for our next meeting Monday morning.
Contact her again and cancel the appointment. MC is a big waste of your time and resources while the OM is still in the picture.
Originally Posted By: NOMAD
I contacted financial advisor and put a freeze on all assets and transactions until further notice.
Good.
Now go withdraw some working cash from the ATM and then call in an report all credit cards etc. as stolen. You need to cut ALL financial support to her. You tell her you will not fund her betrayal any more....
Be prepared for a response somewhere along these lines, "See! I knew you would become a spiteful man. I knew you would do this. It's over. You can forget any chance of US ever again. I'm going to take you for everything you've got! Now you know why I was stashing cash... because I knew you would do this... and blah, blah, blah..."
Ignore all of it, except for threats. If she becomes violent... call the police and have her arrested. You do NOT put up with her bad behavior any more.
Some people will tell you to the opposite... that's fine. You need to make your own choices. You have a mind of your own. All I can tell you is that you need to make your decisions based on reason from this point forward and not from emotion. If you have any fears... confront them. I'm not too big on explaining how to overcome fear so look it up.
That's my 2c and good luck NOMAD.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
