Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[june72]

Last, I have said it before but I'll say it again. Aside from being a poor housekeeper, I know I took him for granted. I was not experienced with relationships and how to maintain them. However, I think if we had talked about our feelings and needs, I would have improved. But we didn't. SO my point is that I wasn't the best wife I could have been and there were times I chose to spend time with my friends instead of him or I chose to just get a card to celebrate our anniversary instead of planning a romantic event. Don't know why. Anyway, no one is perfect. Not to make light of the affair it's just that I made mistakes too.

Fine, you own that part.... but this would never in a million years even in a tiny way justify his affair. That is all on him. If he was dissatisfied he could:
1. Spoke to you about it
2. Gone to counseling
3. Outright D'ed you from the start

So while he may take out the trash and help you still around the house- it does not make him an upstating guy. It only serves his selfish purpose of having more contact with his son or alleviating guilt. It's not about him being nice to you- it's about him trying to sweep away his guilt and have more access to son.

I'm sorry- I think it is painful to hear it but it's what I believe.

In some weird, obtuse way- he is disrespecting you and using you. Just my thoughts. I always like to add the disclaimer that I could be wrong.


Do people at his work know that he left his wife and baby for her??