Going to FT while there is an affair going on in secret is NOT the same thing as going to FT with full disclosure..
I would not even count the original FT as even going ... if an affair is going on FT is not very effective...
How can you expect therapy to be effective if you are lying to your therapist?
An affair partner is a counter-therapy influence... if he put 4 hours a week into a FT and 40 into an affair partner, the FT is not going going to make much of a dent.
- Safe is the best chance to maintain one's sanity... panicking and acting on instincts is what the WS does...
