Hi Opt ~ Hope things are going well today. Hope your D is feeling better.
Keep making your H feel he is on the top of your list. I like Dagny's lipstick in the bedroom idea! I meant to put it in my last post that your description of your H's dash to the bedroom interspersed with your conversation with him made me smile. A massage is also something to look forward to! What a treat!
Keep up the patience and you PMA!
It's good he is wearing his ring!
Thinking of you ~
Mockers2
"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Friedrich Nietzsche
Well, he came home earlier today (around 7 pm). Had some work to do in his secluded bedroom retreat... but at least he did it at home. I pleaded being tired and went to bed, but I am too tired to sleep, so I am up again... rambling.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
A bit more than the day before, but still not much. Our D is still fairly sick and her doctor is in Costa Rica or somewhere in a medical mission. Left a PA in his stead. We'll get her some antibiotics today.
H seems to have calmed down a bit . Got home a bit earlier yesterday, had breakfast at home today (fixed me coffee and offered a sandwich that I declined) and was making plans to come home early because we think he has cought the 'crud' too and sounded congested (am I the only one with an immune system in this family?). He even mentioned some financial details about his office (will see what truth is in them).
I know, he is trying. Why is it that I just cannot trust him? Of course 5 years of deception may be a reason...
My sis leaves tomorrow and my bro will stay one more week. Will see how things go.
Is it 7 days one can go without sleep? My eyes are closing... Thanks God today I have coffee.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Coffee is always good. My C told me that many people find chocolate to be romantic, but I perfer coffee.
Things get harder in my household in the event of (1) sickness and (2) company. Hang in there - this is maybe a period to get through and then focus again. You can't do anything about the relationships between your loved ones - I've always wanted my W to bond with my parents but I've realized that it's just not going to happen.
Quote: I know, he is trying. Why is it that I just cannot trust him? Of course 5 years of deception may be a reason...
I don't know why it takes so much to achieve a feeling of normalcy again. You're healing now... it will take time. My thoughts are, think about what you're bringing to the relationship, the positive energy you can contribute, and he'll respond to you. I have similar feelings - when am I going to feel like my W is fully capable of being in this relationship again? When am I going to have to stop feeling patient and understanding?? But it's not about that - I still can't really expect or extract anything - all I can do is contribute positive energy to the situation, that will help build things much more than my questioning.
Okay, I'm rambling now. Good to chat with you Optimist!!
Glad to hear things are a little better with you and your family. Take care of yourself in the midst of taking care of everyone else. If H doesn't get to feeling too badly, could the two of you have a date night, with your brother keeping the children? Just a thought. Hope you have a good w/e.
Mockers2
"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Friedrich Nietzsche
Hi Opt. Well, what a week. I feel bad for your D as she continues to be sick..It sounds as those it is just cycling through your house over and over.
Now don't be insulted, but try to reinforce proper hand-washing because that is the most common way that this crud is spread. A quick swipe under that water is not effective, thorough washing with soap and warm water is, along with drying. That is probably why you aren't sick - you got into the habit during diaper changing days.
Coffee huh? I don't drink it at all - never have. I can't think that I have even tasted it. I don't even like mocha stuff - even in chocolate. And I don't drink caffeinated beverages at all. The only caffeine I get is in chocolate. Milk is my drink of choice.
Here's hoping that you and H have a great weekend! Enjoy the rest of your brother's visit. Stay well.
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
No, I am not offended, but I am afraid that I am a victim of school, not handwashing My poor daughter does not even pet our dog without washing her hands immediately afterwards... She hates dirt (probably the only toddler I know that would refuse to eat in a table that was not spotless). Actually this year has been much better than the last: when she started school we had the cold of the week. Now it has been the cold of the season!
Lucky you about the no caffeine. I am of the black and no sugar school. I believe that if it does not rearrange your DNS it is not coffee.
Got to go back to work or I'll never finish. TAYL
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
A massage is also something to look forward to! What a treat!
. Got home a bit earlier yesterday, had breakfast at home today (fixed me coffee and offered a sandwich that I declined) and was making plans to come home early because we think he has cought the 'crud' too and sounded congested (am I the only one with an immune system in this family?). He even mentioned some financial details about his office (will see what truth is in them). 
