Coffee is always good. My C told me that many people find chocolate to be romantic, but I perfer coffee.

Things get harder in my household in the event of (1) sickness and (2) company. Hang in there - this is maybe a period to get through and then focus again. You can't do anything about the relationships between your loved ones - I've always wanted my W to bond with my parents but I've realized that it's just not going to happen.

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I know, he is trying. Why is it that I just cannot trust him? Of course 5 years of deception may be a reason...

I don't know why it takes so much to achieve a feeling of normalcy again. You're healing now... it will take time. My thoughts are, think about what you're bringing to the relationship, the positive energy you can contribute, and he'll respond to you. I have similar feelings - when am I going to feel like my W is fully capable of being in this relationship again? When am I going to have to stop feeling patient and understanding?? But it's not about that - I still can't really expect or extract anything - all I can do is contribute positive energy to the situation, that will help build things much more than my questioning.

Okay, I'm rambling now. Good to chat with you Optimist!!

- Bill