Now I look back as it being because he wanted to be assured I would allow him in the delivery room. Everything exh does is for a motive.
I don't know if exh will ever get on his feet. Why should he? He has everything he needs right now.
remember, you can't always know the real motives, only God knows the heart. But we obviously know that exh is not doing the work to be a responsible and giving person, and that is why I totally support you changing after the holidays.
Why should he ever get on his feet? well, because his life sucks. he hates himself, and hates his life, but he uses temporary fixes that make him feel good in the moment. like alcohol, or women, or whatever. He doesn't understand how to really be happy, and what to do to get there. That's why I believe you may be the only one who can SHOW him. That doesn't mean you should be all involved in his life, I'm just saying by your example, because your going to be in his life in some sort of way as long as D is alive.
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and realized I haven't heard a peep from exh since he was here for his visit on Wednesday. No text checking on her yesterday at all. How nice.
was that a sarcastic or serious "how nice" ? if sarcastic...isn't that what you want from him?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
