Welcome. Yup, it's really weird to want to not pursue but build positive connections at the same time. I have had some success with inviting H to events that I've invited other "friends" to also so he doesn't feel romantic pressure, also just talking walks and laughing and having fun as opposed to having an agenda to anything in particulare (movies, dinner, etc). We watch comedies together so we can enjoy each other's company. I have also occasionally participated in things H loves to do anyhow, so he feels I'm interested in who he is and what he spends time doing anyhow.
Low pressure things that allow for lots of laughter and friendship seem the best. Keep us posted and congratulations.
