I have lurked and followed your sitch for a while. And I just got caught up. I am really sorry for these developments. And I heard the same things from my W - the wanting to be alone, the I (me) deserve more than she can give, etc.
So, I understand what you are going through and feel - I'm sure we all do.
And I echo the comments that YOU cannot fix HER. Only she can. And unless and until she wants to help herself, she is not going to change. That hurts, but it is the cold, hard reality.
As Coach has told me, focus on what YOU can control. Fix yourself and process these developments. Only then can you be there for her.
