You are correct, your H's BS is not your problem. If he has no bed, bookcase or no "anything" not your problem. It doesn't mean you can't have empathy but for now, he has chosen a life that does not include you as a W. You can't control that choice but you also don't have to go over and beyond to make it a comfortable choice for him.
I think you might disagree but I would stop making yourself so available to him, stop working around his schedule, start making him wonder what you are up to and worry a lot less about his issues.
