It's so awesome to hear that he is trying and realing trying to foster a relationship thru communication and spending time with you. Yes, I would complete agree with your decision about following choice # 2. It's nearly impossible for things to change over night but as long as he's making progress, you just have to continue to be open and understanding. Despite talking to her, progress was being made for him to finally stand up for you. It's good to have a reminder early next week about therapy to see if he's following thru. You obviously can't overpush it, but that was part of your agreement so he needs to follow thru. As we've been saying, you can't work on the M unless you guys work on yourself. You've already done that over the past few months and he needs to start therapy and start dealing with his own issues. So, it's a great plan to hold off on MC (like your plan of early March) to let that happen. Just deal with each situation as it comes (if you have to give an ultimatum, etc) but just keep positive for now and watch for progress. Also, about the housing situation, I know its frustrating that he's coming off as so negative, but unfortunately with depression, as he seems to be dealing with on some level, your mind can't help but go to negative thoughts. Hopefully these things along with his OW addictions can all be worked out thru therapy. Just continue to pray that the therapist is able to speak in a way that can get thru to H and help real change to happen! And haha, as Kalni said, you're now the OW to OW. Can't you just hear the jealousy in their convo? haha. And unfortunately for her, she obviously doesn't know how to handle it gracefully. Good news for you!
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
