Fear - of being w/out the person I'm closest to...
You are the person you are closest to! That's why you should be making sure you are taking care of her first!
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Fear - of my boys growing up in a broken home...
I understand.... I think part of the problem is that we call it a broken home. My boys are now growing up in a "broken" home, but to me, it feels a lot less broken than it did before. There are different kinds of broken, in my opinion the kind of broken you have now is worse than the kind of broken you fear.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Fear - my daughter being alienated from the man she thinks of as Dad.
I think this one is going to be his choice, and perhaps hers. And, you can encourage them to not let that happen. The relationships will change, but they don't have to end.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Fear - not being able to handle it financially on my own (even though I make a great living, we're in the middle of an IRS nightmare).
Most nightmares do have an end. Your talents, skills, and determination will see you through.
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Fear - loneliness.
I have to say, I have trouble seeing mindfull lonely! You've got your kids, your friends, and who knows how many other people you know! In a way, I'd say you are about as lonely as you can get as things stand now, since what you want is right there, and unavailable. How can it be worse than that?
Originally Posted By: mindfull
Fear - losing my Love.
Well, perhaps. But is it maybe more fear of losing the idea of what you wish you had? There's a lot more living to do. And you have a lot of love to share. He can step up, that would be great. But if not, well, I think there could be better things ahead.
The unknown is scary, no doubt about that. But letting the fear paralyze us doesn't really help. One way or another, things are going to change. You can let the fear control you, and get whatever change comes, or you can take control of your life, and direct the change.
