so often in the past if he's done a boys night or been away on business, i'll try to one-up him by also going out, staying out later, trying to have more fun than him. i know it's not a competition, and it's sad to admit it (even to myself!) but i'm a lot more insecure than i let on.
Sorry, I don't want to step on your feelings and I don't want you to get a divorce.I wanna help you, give you a perspective and you can use it if you feel like it , OK?
Okay here it is from the GUYS perspective. NONE of what YOU are saying about YOU is attractive. Insecurity - not attractive, compliance to H's wishes - not attractive, seeking approval -not attractive.
SO Stop - You need to 180. I DID NOT SAY DATE. Remember I said go out, create the illusion, and also have fun.
If he won't see you leave, than have a friend post an "improptu" picture of you and friends having a blast ( while you are looking sooooo hot) and post on Facebook or something. Get creative.
I'm not saying to cross any moral boundaries I'm saying Get On With Your Life like he is out of it already. And let him know you have and what he is missing!
Originally Posted By: trytryagain
which i know is not a very healthy expression of love. again. insecure.
I guess seperating, moving out & wondering every so often openly, @ your M is your H's idea of " a healthy expression of Love"
Stop this thought process.
Originally Posted By: trytryagain
i guess i won't bring up dating unless he does...it just KILLS me to think about him going out with someone else. maybe i'll be more open to it in a few months or later down the road, and i guess i DID flirt with a few guys while i was out the other night...but i just ended up feeling guilty.
This is SEEKING His Approval. You gotta STOP this also.
M43 W43 D11 S7 M18 T20 WAW is back & trying (no she was lying) Close to callin' it busted but.... watching Whatever the outcome - It was a choice.
