I know - time flies with the kids and they grow up so fast. I am dreading the teen years but I guess I am getting practice now dealing with my H!
KJ, you are fortunate your H hasn't followed the typical running through money like it is water like so many of the MLCers do! It is scary. He may be upset you took the steps to have your paycheck deposited to a different account but that is the reality of D.
We have always operated on the premise that all money is both of ours and worked well together on figuring it all out and talking about money. For the last year and a half, that hasn't been - the working together. He is starting to a little bit again but I think he is honestly waking up some to the mess he has created and probably is too depressed and overwhelmed by life in general to deal with it the way he needs to and take responsibility. Hopefully that will work itself out in time as well.
I guess I should leave the 12 Love Languages book again. It is important to be aware of what those you love need to feel loved. It is interesting that you feel like you did "love" your H with words and he doesn't remember that - part of that rewriting of history, MLC memory lapse. It is so frustrating.
