Just wanted to jump in here and recommend a book that I'm finding REALLY helpful. It's called From Abandonment to Healing, by Susan Anderson. Every now and then we find ourselves stuck in this journey from surviving the big D to thriving again. This book lays out the emotional process in a very clear way, explores "stuckness" in each stage, and discusses how one can work thru it.
I came across this title somewhere on these boards, and if I can remember whose thread mentioned it I'd thank them personally. Since I can't recall, tho, just a general thank you going out here!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012