The reason I take issue with this is because my W cannot handle having a lot of money. Both my family and her family acknowledged that when she walked into this job 2 years ago making 90k, it completely changed her. It went to her head. She went wild. She became of the opinion she was invincible. In her mind, she acted as if she was now above others and deserved better treatment than others because of her money. She bragged constantly about how much she was making. She quit being a mom. She went out and partied. She quit going to church. She blew money left and right. It was all fantasy for her. 2 years of making this salary and when it came down to her contract ending, she didn't have a dime saved. She was going to come to me for help and I was only making 55k and had more money in savings than her. Her complete attitude towards people and things changed.
So yes, when she decided to take the permanent job for less money and better stability, I was making an assumption that maybe she was finally becoming grounded again. But when she told me that she couldn't do it and opted for the temp contract with higher money, the first thing that popped into my head was, oh no, here we go again. She can't handle the money and the prestige of the position. She has proven to let money completely and 100% go to her head.
So no, I do not want to see her making this kind of money again until she can show that she can handle it. She no longer felt like she had any responsibilities in life when she hit the first job. It was a radical change.
You can think what you want from this. But I know and my family and her family admitted the same thing. The money completely changed her and not for the better. She went off the deep end with it. She had also decided at that point she wanted a guy who also made 100k or more. She was completely soaked up in it and the party lifestyle it afforded her.
Take what you want away from this, but that is what happened to her.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
