How will he know that your paycheck is in your account? Or is it that it won't be in the joint account. I say wait. Keep Dim/Dark. This is what divorce is all about. He needs to understand that reality. Don't rub his nose in it though.
Thanks for the advice about the book. Your H read it. I think that is interesting.
Just let what D12 say roll off your shoulders, I guess the hug and the apology later was worth the wait. They may say they hate you now but in 2 years you will have D14 learning how to drive and D12 is only 2 years behind that. Believe me it(time) goes FAST!
