I listen to Dr. Laura off and on...when people call in with issues such as your current one...she always says that if you want to stay married, that your H must be your top priority before all others, including other family members. I think she would say that your siblings should be kind, respectful and friendly to your H in his home, or they should not be welcome there. Your H must know that you place him in front of all others. I am sure that advice would change depending on what exactly the rift is about. But if you want to stay married, you must make H feel #1.
