Praying for Light at the end of the Tunnel

[kjensen]

OP- I think it would be great to share The 5 Love Languages with wife and if she figures hers out and shares them with you-more power to you! My H actually read that book(about the only one I suggested!) and I thought it was helpful.. Trying to se it for the girls(there is a teen version of the book I need to check out) and have spoken about it with them...from our conversation neiher have a love language! :-)

TF..hang in there! I truly get the exhaustion bit. and those 'teen' years do come so fast. Soak in the fun(an unabashed love) your kids' ages bring now!

Libby- I do think the teen years are particularly rough for a parents' MLC to happen. My dad separated from my mother and moved half-way cross country when I was 13. That was hard. But the MLC animal is different-its like its our parent, but your parent is acting funny..saying things and not following through.. The marriage wasn't so bad, so why did Dad leave?

Part of why last night was so difficult is that D12 is my little drama queen and when she meltsdown she does it over the top..says things I know she doesn't mean but boy do they hurt.." Mom, everyone hates you..I ask who? well she does and dad doesn't love me b/c he left and D14 argues with me so I must be the problem...

I did manage to calmly tell D12 that I wasn't going anywhere and I loved her no matter how she felt about me...didn't help at the time but later on I got a hug and an apology.

And so it goes...

D14 is so calm about her sisters meltdowns..."Mom, she's just tired, make her take a nap and she'll be fine"...this said at 9pm..we were all tired!

Well my checking account got funded with my paycheck which I'm sure H will see today. Not sure if I should be proactive and explain to him or wait for him to bring it up..I'll probably see him at D12's basketball game tonight. a bit nervous about his reaction even though I didn't do anything wrong..I'm sure he'll feel I wasn't upfront or something. I did tell him my lawyer suggested this and he just thought we'd do it later... Anyone have ideas? Proactive or wait and see what he brings up?