I think the impact on children who are teenagers is maybe bigger than other age groups. They are also on their hormonal journey and then their life is torn apart by a dad in MLC.
The security they once knew to take them through their angst has changed and they have to come to terms with it.
Both my boys age 16 and 13 are struggling. My S16 even got quite threatening the other day and I had to stand my pitch and tell him ascertively it was not acceptable. He backed down so I must have done something right.
KJ we are all going through this journey together. Be strong your 14 year old knows where her security is she is just testing boundaries to see if you will leave as well.