One day at a time....

[pearlharbr]

Rocked, have you (singly or together) read the 5LL book? Do you know what your and H's LL's are? I think a good approach would be to do one, maybe two, thing(s) every week that speak to H's LL. That way you are showing him love in a way that he will understand but also not go overboard on the pursuit.

And do not give up detachment. It is important to maintain a healthy R. Opening up and sharing with H does not mean linking your happiness to him in some way. That will help a lot with your fixer mentality that leads to your parent/child dynamic. If you haven't seen this yet, check out this article. I have it bookmarked and reread it often.