Well, your plan of action if you find out she is with OM sounds good. Your goal of a timeline is not so good...YOU could decide what YOU want to do if she doesn't come back by May but a goal of getting her back by then will just disappoint you (they have their own timeline you know!!) However, having fun or showing her that you are capable of having fun isn't a bad idea! But I am not reconciled so you need to take my opinions with a grain of salt. I just have read and read and observed others so far. No matter what, don't be so eager to earn her affection. You can show a fun side but still GAL and do 180s! I know personally that detaching is hard when you share a child and see her all the time. I have not detached. So what about self improvement...what do you need to work on that will help you be a happier person?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
