Sexual abuse is an ingredient for Borderline. I think the C were correct in there theory of this. Combined with peri/meno, her age I think this is a major disaster waiting to happen. If she doesn't get help she will most likely destroy anything in her path. That is part of borderline, to destroy anything that is good in her life.
So my suggestion is try to get her help or if that won't work detach and NC as far away as possible!
