I wanted to add that when the sex in my marriage died out, it left an awful hole in my life. It made me feel half-dead. Joining with my lover made me feel alive again. That power of a woman's love to rejuvenate life was what I was missing. I wasted so many years searching for a way to fill my life and feel alive again. I finally realized that I would only find this with one true love. If this was not to be with my wife, then I would find another woman who would love me as much as I loved her.
This feeling of life-giving is most powerful with my true love - my wife. Thankfully she wants this with me now. However it did not have to be with her. The only way I could have had this with another woman would have been to let go of my wife first.
