This is where I get stuck sometimes, as I have felt a bit in a "damned if I do, damned if I don't" scenario. One of H's complaints of the state of our M prior to the A was that I was "tuned out" from him, didn't pursue, didn't need him etc. Yet, during DBing I had to learn not to pursue, to detach etc. So, now with piecing, it is a tough balance for me to figure out when to do what. Still struggle with it, but am going to try to "trust my gut" a little more on this.
