To be fair my siblings have not done anything, except maybe ignore him when they first arrived (my H speaks very softly, especially when he is nervous, so it is quite possible that they never heard him). He has not set eyes on them since (and it's been three days!).
He seems more relaxed now, but still reclusive. We'll see how the week goes...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Opt, It's a difficult sitch for all involved. Treat everyone with love. Just make the best of the situation. Try a little humor if you can muster some up....sometimes a good laugh...can cure the worst of situations. Just make sure it's not at anyone's expense or things will get worse! HUGS...C.
I agree, humour is great, funny stories from years past, even family classics...that's what my folks and sibs did at first...almost in a way, I suppose letting CJ know he was still part of the family.
It's actually quite amazing (at least in my experience) how many of the folks who really love you will support YOUR decision.
Well, it is quite difficult to be humorous when the other person just isn't there. I just spent the night in a sofa because when I went to bed last night I found my D taking up my whole side of the bed and I did not dare move her and wake her up. My H woke up early and left without breakfast, saying that he'll call me in the evening. And now he is going to his office with OW...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Actually I had a pretty long pessimistic spell -for me- but the optimist was back when I had the long convo with my sister. I guess I cannot be down for long, like those little toy things that always bounce back.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Quote: You know, Pam, some men actually need quiet spells of doing nothing with no conversation. My H can be an expert in that, especially in really long car trips, or relaxed Sunday afternoons.
I somehow got trained since childhood into keeping a soft flow of conversation, as if silence were bad. At first when we were dating I tried, but after a while it went nowhere. So now when we go on a trip we just watch the landscape and think our own thoughts. And, guess what?, when one of us actually talks it is usually to say the same thing the other is thinking (no mind reading involved). Our train of thoughts run parallel!
My H doesn't talk much on trips either...it's his thinking time which is fine with me I like to read or not talk, also.
I used to think this was bad, also, so would try and the conversation wouldn't go anywhere.
). I guess he would not bother to take it...