Hi nsw, while I haven't read your entire old thread, it seems clear that your SO moved out so she can intensify things with OM.

How often do you see SO? Are you being distant? Stop persuing or trying to get her back right now...it sucks but temporarily do your own thing.

What goals are you setting for yourself?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004