This may sound a bit cold, but if the other players know about you & w having problems--then they should not expect you to show up and play with her. You will see that I don't know much about this, but shouldn't you bow out and tell them to get a replacement for you? Why would you even consider placing you or your family in a position like that? It doesn't matter how much they love tennis.....this is your M for crying out loud. You've laid a boundary. How serious do you think your W will take you if you show up for play time?

Even if nobody knew, you have to make decisions about the MR (which is much more important than tennis)and you can't have it both ways. Don't use this tennis match to try and figure out how you can play with your W, b/c it isn't worth it. Some things have to fall second (or farther on down) than your self-respect. IMHO, you would be forfeiting respect from her, for yourself, and maybe those who know about the stitch.

I'm sure you've pictured yourself doing it somethow and being all cool about it, but i don't think you could pull it off this soon. It's too raw & too fresh. I just believe it would give her the wrong message. Like you said, she would play with you then go be with OM.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!