My SO claims that the OM she's interested in is "just a friend" and that all they do is talk and hang out.
While many here have said that's BS and theres at least an EA going on...what can be done if she is actually telling the truth and at this stage they are "just friends"?
My SO and I no longer live together, and she has agreed to spend time with me, but is still planning on spending time with this OM as well and he's getting the benefit of the doubt where as I can do no right.
If he is "just a friend" for now, I cant really even set a boundary to tell her who her friends are...can I? To me that would seem controlling. You cant tell people who they can have as friends.
On the other hand, I would really like to cut this thing off before it does become more...especially physical.
But she's so hesistant to spend time with me without looking at everything I do with a suspicious eye. And the time she has spent with me so far has been as a family...meaning our daughter has been present. When I brought up the two of us spending time together she had a fit (said I was pushing, etc.).
While I know she spends time with him and our daughter (which still bothers me whether or not they're more than friends), I know she spends time with him without our daughter around as well.
