What is it, about advice for you to work on you, that frightens you so much?
25, I don't know. Right now I am just not sure about much in my life. I don't know what the future holds and I don't know how to change the future career wise and M wise.
Kevin
Kevin,
Since I seem to be having the same problem (and I'm also unemployed)...maybe I can step up and offer an explanation for why people in our position resist change.
When our W or SO dropped the bomb and/or walked out on us...the world we know/knew is turned upside down and changed forever. We're left in such a lost and devastated state, that we cant bear to see anything else change. We're desperately grasping out trying to stop this runaway train now known as our life, as we believe any further changes only decreases the stability we have, not increasing it.
Does any of that sound accurate? I know it is for me and dont want to speak for someone else but I thought if I voiced how I was feeling maybe others might be feeling the same way.
Also Kevin...I feel your pain with respect to the financial aspects of your situation. With you, your W has gotten a pretty good paying job which prevents her from feeling/facing reality and all the fincial distresses that being on her own would bring. With me, my SO moved in with her father who has taken on most of her bills. She isnt likely to realize anything I did as a provider for our family so long as she's not on her own.
