Just want to say it seems you are really getting too caught up in every little detail of what your W does/doesn't do, says/doesn't say etc. It is wearing you down. YOu are going to exhaust yourself.
Take a breath. Remind yourself that you are going to be ok no matter what. You cannot control the choices your W makes about anything. Keep the focus on you. Ultimately, you are DBing for you. Be less attached to your DBing strategies having particular outcome on her behavior and do what is good for you. Yes, you want to keep seeing what works and do more of that, but don't get so wrapped up in it that you exhaust yourself.
Tonight, try to just take care of you and the girls. Relax. Do something fun. Smile. Laugh. Whistle.
