Well she has gotten cold feet to some extent. She has basically backed off from going to counseling to see if we have a foundation to work from. Now she wants to focus on parenting and the troubles we're having with our oldest daughter. I'm sure it must feel risky to her. I get that. It's just that the days weeks and months are passing by and with time the love is dying. It's almost as if she wants to move forward but is afraid to take any risk. At the risk of losing everything. I get that too. Just a bummer. I wonder if she's afraid the counselor will suggest she try and she's not ready? Recommendations?should I wait? Go slow with counseling? We're really pretty good friends right now. Id hate to see things stay as they are.
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Well, helllooo...have you ever gone back and read this thread from the start? I just did (well not all the way to the end but about 1/2 way from the beginning)...you had some good advice back then and I think you are now right at the point at which you should implement it...separate the kid issues from the R issues. Go in with the intention to effectively co-parent. Give that a little time and see what happens. There are risks involved for both of you, don't forget that...but what do I know?
