I disagree about the doorway. Kat one time suggested you think about your WAS or X as if they were the mailman and treat them accordingly. Do you invite your mailman to come in or does your mailman feel free to come inside your house when he/she feels like it? I thought that was really good advice, and try to follow it. If your mailman started invading your boundaries, would you let them? Same goes for your X....Of course, I know that's easier said than done, but good way to decide if someone is invading/respecting your boundaries or not.
