dating and separation?

[trytryagain]

thanks, serenity. i think i'm in your boat, but i don't know if my H feels the same way. for me, as long as i'm legally married, i'm not on the market. but if my H feels differently (and i guess this goes back to the whole "i can't control what anyone does but me" issue), and wants to date, i at least want us to be honest with each other as long as we are still man and wife.

in all honesty, if he wanted to date, i probably would do it, too, just so i didn't feel left behind. although, since that goes against my values, i'd probably feel even worse than i do now.

either way, i'm just not really sure how to talk about it. and i'm not sure that i really even want to know if he wants to date other people...i know he wouldn't want to now, but maybe in a few months he'd be ready...and then what??