What is it, about advice for you to work on you, that frightens you so much?
Because it's hard.
Because it requires work.
I think your right, but its also unchartered territory. I speak from experience.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!