Weeding out the bad

[optimist]

Colleen, the situation WAS reversed. He had humiliated me in front of his whole family by taking OW in my place to his mother's funeral while denying to me any R with her. And when I learned of that, after the bomb, I called his sister, and gave her my side of the story with him on speakerphone. And then went to spent 1 week alone at my SIL just to face my demons. In the process my SIL and I mended our R and became friends. And I found inner peace.

I'd want him to stand up for me. To stay and not avoid the confrontation. Not that there is any since he just has disappeared. If he lived somewhere else, I'd see him more.

I am furious. He is so unable to confront anyone that he cannot tell OW to clear out, or give him back his stuff. And now he cannot even look at my brother and sister in the eye and take it.

Yesterday he left me alone and I had to take them everywhere. And even concoct a story to tell our friends when I showed up at the birthday party without him. This morning he made me wake up and go fix breakfast while he hides in our room to read, just in case he runs into my brother and sister. I am so furious and disappointed and tired.

I do not know why I even bother... I am considering telling him to clear out. I am not going to spend the rest of my life in hiding.