I could not find any current court cases for the OW or her H.
Exposing is useful but it should not be the only thing you are concerned with right now.
GET YOUR DUCKS IN ORDER! BE PREPARED! HAVE A PLAN AND SCRIPT TO RECITE EACH TIME YOU TALK WITH HIM FROM HERE ON OUT!
There are a couple guys on this site who have recently we received "The Call" from the Other Man's Wife. Not too damn much has changed in their situation other than they now believe what was being told to them for months on this forum. It is not a cure all solution to the problems you are facing. It is just a phone call.
Not until your husband has to face reality and it scares him $hitle$$ is he going to wake up to facts that he needs to clean up his act and work seriously on himself and his marriage. On the flip side, realize, if you welcome him back in the house willingly without changes in his behavior and attitude towards you thinking the solution is just to be at home where you can keep an eye on him, You will most likely end up like the girl with the hockey husband or worse he will cheat again. This cannot be swept under the rug in hopes your marriage will "just" survive.
I would recommend you get prepared with your finances so you can give him a exact figure of how much you need in support weekly/monthly and have a attorney prepared custody and visitation schedule set up to benefit you ready for him to sign.
Do you have a support group other than the forum board? A bunch of raging red head divorcies to get your mind straight, advise you on how to get everything, and toss you to wolves before you are ready? It is probably exactly what you need right now.
Understand, he is going to try and control you and the situation to mimize it and its outcome. Esp. financially if this proceeds to a court divorce. It is best you know what to say beforehand, say nothing else and if he keeps saying divorce then tell him maybe its better if all of this is discussed by our attorneys from here on out.
