I can take her off. I just don't see what point it serves. But I can certainly do it.
Kevin
Kevin I really don't care if you do or don't, doesn't matter to me, doesn't affect me...I just don't think it's healthy for you and you said it bugs you to see all her updates so I don't know why you do...
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
The only point that I see is to try and put her further out of my mind and to not give me thoughts about her when I open up my IM on my phone. Other than that, I don't see a real point.
Am I off or on?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I hadn't read KerryK's response before I posted my answer. I just read it now though.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
The only point that I see is to try and put her further out of my mind and to not give me thoughts about her when I open up my IM on my phone. Other than that, I don't see a real point.
Am I off or on?
Kevin
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
I will give it some thought tonight and post my answer tomorrow. But yes, I see where you are going with it. To help detach. It doesn't help put her out of my mind, but it does keep me from being frusturated in that I don't have to see whatever status she is up to each time I look at my phone.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Click on the link SO2, there is a ton of good info on the site for detachment...and the effect of not detaching.
You only have to follow this thread to see the effects of not detaching...
Yes you do! I am the poster child of what not to do! Its very difficult to weed through the manipulation BS and when you are dealing with someone so sociopathic. They find your weaknesses and play them to their advantage.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
