There is always the photo collage album as a option. Major pursuit, but it worked for my W when her mind was all a fog and she was creating revisionist history. Definitely not DB oriented.
I still think you need to break your codependence cycle before you have a chance of piecing any marriage with your W.
Now if your W was also codependent, that might work. Can 2 codependent people exist peacefully in an R?
