Is it me? Or is it really everyone else? lol.

[K4D]

We take the good with the bad and the bad with the good, I get that but at what point does one out weight the other?

If you are referring to at what point should the bad outweigh the good, it won't.

Kevin

[Drew]

That is an excellent way to exhibit a point, Drew!

Citygirl,

I don't think Kevin feels the same way. Do you notice that he doesn't respond to my posts? I think I hit a little too close to home for him ........

He doesn't realize that I'm trying to help him.

[K4D]

Drew,

I did respond to one of your posts about the birthday for D8. But this has been moving so fast, I have been trying to hit the key points. I am reading everything.

Kevin

[Drew]

If you are referring to at what point should the bad outweigh the good, it won't.

Kevin

That's not healthy.

[CityGirl]

We are all trying to help him but our help is not the comfortable way to do things.

He picks and chooses it seems and I guess it is kinda hurtful but not much we can do about that except keep at it if we so choose.

[K4D]

The advice I am looking for is how to move towards a reconciliation, not walk away and say she isn't worth it.

Kevin

[smith18]

The birthday thing was an excellent example of a lack of a spine and strength. D8 wanted crab shack. You should not have put her in the situation of chosing because grandpa did not want that. You wanted crab shack also, but you wussed out to your W's and FIL's wishes even though it was your time with the kids.

[K4D]

I gave D8 the option to choose what she wanted. It was her birthday. I was going to do whatever she wanted to do regardless of what W or her dad thought or wanted.

Kevin

[CityGirl]

NOBODY IS TELLING YOU TO WALK AWAY OR SAY SHE IS NOT WORTH IT. NOBODY.

What we are telling you is the way you are going about a reconciliation is not working as you are not working on you and you are still hinging your happiness on your W.

I am really stunned you KEEP saying the same thing.

Less than one month ago you were in a tizzy and could not wait to file for a D and all we did is support you and say you should do what is best for you. Now we are saying the SAME thing, we support you and do what is best for you but the way you are doing it is not the healthiest way for a reconciliation.

But no, to hell with good sense. Instead it is all us telling you to dump your W and walk away. Nobody said she wasn't worth it. You know, you have a few people still left trying to help you see outside your box and you come back with this BS?

[Drew]

The advice I am looking for is how to move towards a reconciliation, not walk away and say she isn't worth it.

Kevin

What you don't understand is the advice you are receiving IS your best chance at reconcilation. As counter-intuitive as it seems to you.