Thanks, mo3.

I know, winning/losing is in my head and my perspective.

I will need time to see that and change it to a good perspective.

I know many many people on these boards have packed their possessions off in little cardboard boxes and started anew. And they didn't die. And didn't die of shame.

I am just on the lowest point of the roller coaster right now. I have to believe there is an up.

And with all your help I will find that up.


Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process