That is an excellent way to exhibit a point, Drew!
And I think that is what all of us are trying to say... while every person/situation is not the same in MOST cases WAS's are not all that unique. They are even less unique after the step outside the bounds of marriage.
Every time my H was "decent" to me within days his attny did something outlandish or he (he = my H) was on the verge of doing something outlandish and cruel.
I mean, the day your W insisted you change the plans for your daughter's b-day dinner at the crab house to accommodate her dad.. the man that acted like some sort of crime boss and threatened to "take care of you", what happened? You changed plans and the very next night your W told your children and YOU at the same time they would be moving and going to a new school.
Yet she gives you one hug a week later and mentions she is singing at church and all the negative patterns SHE continues to present are forgotten. We take the good with the bad and the bad with the good, I get that but at what point does one out weight the other?
