Hi Opt, I appreciate you coming by and checking in on my thread from time to time and I'm way to take this long to return the favor.
After catching up on your postings, I can sense the bond between you and your H is getting stronger. You're doing more of what you know works, but also keep in mind what works is a moving target. What did work before may work now, so sometimes its worth revisiting some of what didn't work before. Once you're at a point where you are piecing, crying or being upset should not to be avoid at all cost ... these are human emotions that need expression like any other and it is not meant for us to live without them, but we need to keep them in balance. So don't fear an outburst as bad DBing.
Bad DBing is repeating a pattern where the spouse begins to anticipate your outburst, so its when such outbursts become part of our norm that it pushes the spouse away,
What is it they say? ... everything in moderation.
to take this long to return the favor. 
