Hmm...well I dont think the gym hurt my sitch...but it may not have helped either.
My SO and I had agreed to meet at 9:30 at the gym and about 9:20 I got a call saying she fell back asleep after I called her. (I think she is still having depression issues despite her now living with her dad and her initial assertion that living with me is what caused her depresion).
So anyway, she ended up not getting there until 10AM. We worked out, played basketball together (she loved that...was laughing and smiling left and right), and had a generally good time. As we were finishing up I asked her and she said she had fun.
There was a minor hiccup when we were using the cardio equipment...I was asking her about the KidsClub/daycare and she said she probably wouldnt need it as she would just come early enough that she wouldn't have our daughter yet. I said something along the lines of if she was interested maybe we could work out together and how a lot of time people's exercise routines are more productive when they do it with another person. She didnt seem repulsed by the idea but wasnt enthusiastic either, and I just threw it out there with no further pressure/discussion.
At any rate, the big problem came when we were leaving and I asked if we should talk to one of the gym reps. She was interested in prices but she was hesistant about talking to someone because she had to be at work in 25 mins.
So I should have just agreed that we could come back another day, but since they had membership price specials going on today I went ahead and asked for a rep. Well that was a mistake...he started asking all these questions, going through a sales pitch, even offering a tour. We declined the tour as we had already been working out and she had seen the gym.
At this point my SO was looking at me with annoyed eyes and I mouthed "I'm sorry" to her. The rep went through some of the packages, and he actually asked if she and I would be working out together. My SO responded that it would depend on the times.
So some of the plans he laid out seemd a little pricey to me and I didnt want my SO to get taken advantage of, so I asked about other options. Of course this added to the time it was taking. He ended up asking if my SO would be on my account (where it would be one bill of our memberships together, coming to me) and I didnt really know what to say(she would pay me of course...I'm not footing her bill). I asked if there was any sort of discount for that, and he came back with the best offer yet.
I asked my SO what she thought and if she would be ok with that and she asked the same of me. I told her I was fine with it if she was ok with it. At this point she had 5 minutes to be at work and wasnt gonna make it as she still had to go home and shower. So we just told the rep we would think about it and come back another day.
My SO gave our daughter a hug and said "see ya" to me. I know she was irritated, but it wasnt blatantly obvious.
After I left I felt really bad at making her late. I wanted to send her a message/call and apologize, but I held off because I figured if she was really irritated at me, the apology might fall on deaf ears and or add to her frustration
After I got to thinking about it, while it was my fault since I suggested talking to the rep, it wasnt my fault that he kept going on and on, and it wasnt my fault in that had she gotten to the gym at 9:30 as we had agreed, there would have been more than enough time.
She ended up calling me about a half hour ago to see if my daughter and I had made it home yet...apparently there were some big trucks that had a wreck on a main road between the gym and our house. I told her that we were home, thanked her for calling to check, and told her I'd talk to her later. She didnt sound irritated and it was nice to get the call.
Now that I'm thinking about it though, I wonder if she was sitting on that road stuck in traffic when she called. I hope she didnt want to talk more and I kind of brushed her off. I can just imagine her thinking "what a jerk...he makes me late for work and when I call to check on him and tlak a little he gives me the brush off". I wasnt rude...and maybe she wasnt interested in talking more.
At any rate...like I said I dont think today hurt our sitch any, but it didnt help either.
I guess we'll see tomorrow. The next 3 days are gonna be rough for me...as now that I know about the OM I know these days are when she usually sees him.
