wow you are getting great advice here! As for his opinion of your 88 y/o mom watching her (for an hour or two),um, this from a man who has supervised visits with a child, and that he barely manages to keep?
And The idea that all your spare time for baby should be with him undermines the whole point of his limited supervised visits...why is this incomprehensible to him? Oh, b/c he can say and do what he wants and "gaslight" you and the world. (Hope you get the reference--like he has NO idea about why he can't see the baby whenever HE wants and YOU are the obstacle, he did nothing wrong and blah blah blah--amnesia, narcissistic, etc) No, you are not the crazy one; he is. But don't join him!
My mom is also 88 y/o and she can handle a little one for an hour or two as well but like your mom, feels she must be right there 100% and though I love that, it also means limited time. But hey, our moms have limited time left so, do what you can.
Take care, and DO think about moving away or somehow detaching way more so you don't know the insanity of MGF's life. Who wants to know that? Can you gently ask your son to talk about her outside your presence? I don't see the value of knowing what is going on with her. There's not a lot that you can control or value in knowing what she said about you or your X h or what he said. What if he thinks the sky is green and the moon is made of cheese? What if she agrees!!??? Look, His "data" about you is not real. Therefore it does not matter. He may as well be a crazy homeless man screaming at you for being from Mars...who cares? Are you going to start dressing differently or defending yourself, spending time and energy on THAT, so no one else thinks you are from Mars? Or are you going to let it go b/c it just does not matter what two crazy people who others know are not "well", say or think about you, when those whom you love, KNOW you are not from Mars...? Hmm? (I vote for the latter choice, fyi )
Don't forget either, you are divorced from this man. You are not married so there is no m to work on. Just a civil R, and if that becomes impossible, then there are courts to handle things.
Keep up the good work and please do not assume responsibility for the choices your X h made or the consequences he now faces. So what if it's "hard" for him? I'm sorry, but is your life easy now? His difficulties are NOT YOUR PROBLEM....you have enough to do with GAL and raising your kids. Be strong, be brave! You CAN do this....you are.... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
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