So after much internal debate, turmoil and all sorts of other things I decided to take the job in the town where wife and kids are.
Main thing was my focus on them. I think no matter what this would be the best life for the boys, the best life for me. no hearts... and I am currently ok with that. great hospital, great people, great town.
I really think the job is going to be a great job for me in the end...