Because he told you OW filed, doesnt mean its true....they like to make stuff up to make it hard on you. And....I doubt he'd be saying those things he said to you if OW and he were planning the perfect life together.
Leave him alone and let him wallow in his mess. Go do something that takes your mind away from this. Its a long, long road.
OWH will be your ally, even if they are getting divorced. I had a friend that had an affair with a divorced woman. His wife contacted this whores XH, and he really helped her out. So, regardless of their situation, the two of you can work together. My OMW and I share info all the time. She's a very nice person and am amazed at what people risk in their lives.
I was reading yesterday about Shania Twains situation, where she's now going to marry OMH.....weird stuff happens. Not saying you or I are going there, just to not be afraid of OWH...
