Changes I think I have made are that I have become more patient with W. I have shown her that I do love and care for her. I have shown her that I can respect her boundaries.
Changes yall want to see are... Me setting boundaries with W GAL Be happy in my life no matter what current circumstances are Live life to the fullest Do for me and not for what W might think
Nice goals to obtain I do have some boundaries that get set with W regardless of what is acknowledged on here. I have trouble fully enjoying my life without W. I have moments of enjoyment. I am looking for a job for me and my kids and one that will be respectable in the eyes of my W. I admit this since she puts such heavy emphasis on it. I do things for myself.
I am not going to be as harsh to my W as others on here will be. I am not her doormat, but I do help her and I try to maintain a friendship with her even when it hurts. Ultimately I do want to build a bridge back to her. I can't do that by avoiding her and refusing to be her friend. I do give her space. I would like nothing more than to contact her and say hi, but I don't. I resist. And when I am starting to feel weak in wanting to do so, I post it on here and what I am thinking and it is always shot down very well and I am put back into place.
So at times she is peice by peice pulling the rug out from under me further. I can admit that. At the same time, things ARE improving between us. Gosh, I couldn't have done half this stuff with her 6 months ago.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
