Because I miss her. I want to be with her. Our kids want us back together. I miss our family being together. I miss our M. Just because she may not consider our M and family important doesn't mean that it isn't. It is hard to let go of something you miss and love.
Kevin
I, I, I, I, I ......... this isn't all about you Kevin. True love means putting another's needs before your own. You talk a good game with your faith, but you really don't live it. Why do you continue to only see two possibities?
1. Divorce my wife 2. Wait for God to "bring her back to me"
EXACTLY...That is the over simplification I posted about before. Only 2 options and neither requires change in K4...Kev, have you reconsidered your choices about C or T? I know you went a few times, or twice...but since you don't discuss it, I assume you quit. But these feelings of "stress" and inability to fully function are clinical and chronic. Why not get some real help so that life won't overwhelm you so often? I think part of your "need" of w is that you "need" someone else to prop you up and that's not healthy, and sorry to say, as you know, it's not attractive either. Saying you want to get back together b/c you want to, and you say the kids do too, are not reasons in your w's eyes, obviously. Why should she want to? Oh sure, for the kids...but as a woman, why should she want you as her partner? I'm not trying to beat you down, but get you to open your eyes and look inside and get the tools for life you seem to be missing some of...or you will still be here in the years to come....
You really are limiting the power of God when you only see these two narrow possibilities. You talk about His will be done, but only if it fits in your idea of what Kevin wants.
Since you seem to like to put all this in biblical terms, let's look at it this way: Detaching = Jesus or John the Baptist going off in the desert for 40 days to work on themselves. THAT'S what everyone is asking you to do. Go off in the desert for 40 days and work on Kevin. Care about your wife but don't worry about every little thing she's doing.
You HAVE to let it go. The tighter you hold on, the more you're going to lose it. You really need to understand this key concept or you're really not DB'ing. That is why you fail.
Can you do that?
Well said Drew. j-
Last edited by 25yearsmlc; 01/28/1005:26 PM.
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